WHY YOU DON’T HAVE WHAT YOU WANT

If you don’t have what you want, it’s usually for one of two reasons.

1) You don’t believe in it yet.

With my clients, I’ve learned that if they don’t believe it, they can’t see it. And if they can’t see it, they can’t get it.

It’s a form of blindness that’s caused by perspective rather than through actual physical disability, yet it’s stunningly real.

It usually means they’re not ready. If they DO manage to see and take an opportunity, even though they struggle with doubt, it usually slips through their fingers soon after anyway. So, I’ve learned to help others create belief rather than pushing them to take action… there really is no other way for them to find, and keep, what they want.

2) Something better is coming.

From the time I was little, I was creative. But since I was shy to express myself, I chose to study the quietest & most private of all the arts: poetry. I even went to graduate school for an MFA in Creative Writing. I was hopeful that I’d have the chance to publish a book of poems. 

Instead, I kept getting pushed towards things that were edgier and brighter. I became a professor, which was like a mini stage, and it broke me in and exposed me. I wasn’t as shy about expression after that.

Now, I speak to all kinds of people, including public figures, industry leaders, and CEOs. I love the work I do. When I express my views… people listen. And when I create business goals, opportunities come into my life without delay.

You see, those opportunities are way bigger than the chance to quietly publish a poem. I just didn’t know how to vision it back then.

This happens to you, too.

You want something specific, but then something better comes, and then, as long as you believe it, life changes instantly for the better. And not just a little better… WAY better.

But if you can’t believe in it?

You might even destroy it.

I realize that both of these reasons might sound mysterious and wishful, but they’re not. The above thoughts are plainspoken, yet they’re consistent with the laws of quantum physics and with philosophical and spiritual wisdom teachings that explain for the power of thought. I’m just summing them up for you so that you can better understand your own life, right away.

So what do you do if you don’t believe, or if you’re not getting what you want?

Engage with a new dream. Something that inspires you and feels easy to believe in. Choose that one. 

Don’t worry. It doesn’t mean you’ve given up on the all the rest.

Before you know it, you’ll refresh and rediscover, from a place of passion and inspiration, the old one – the one that felt blocked for you – and yet after a little space and time, there won’t be a block any longer.

You will be fine.

When my clients set goals for the year, I always ask, “does this goal feel more like the truth or more like a lie?” They tell me the answer so quickly. If it feels more like a lie to them,  I know that the work we must do is at the level of belief – NOT at the level of productivity and action. 

Do the same thing for yourself when you realize there’s something you want. Do you really believe you can have it, or does it feel like a lie? If you don’t yet believe, simply switch over to a goal that you CAN currently believe in, even if it’s just a fraction of the original goal. You won’t stop yourself from accomplishing great things. Just the opposite-you’ll get there faster than you ever have.